Emotional numbness is a quiet signal that something inside needs care. Many men feel flat or disconnected without knowing why. This blog breaks down what numbness really means, why it shows up, and how small steps can help you feel like yourself again.

International Men’s Day is a reminder that men deserve care, support, and space to slow down. Many look steady on the outside but feel tired or numb on the inside. This blog explores the quiet pressures men carry and how counselling can help them reconnect with themselves and the people who matter most.

Written by Evan Vukets, RCC , Registered Clinical Counsellor in Abbotsford, BC. I support men in Abbotsford, the Fraser Valley, and online across BC. Learn more about me When I hear the phrase “toxic masculinity,” I feel an instant reaction in my body. It is like a quiet “ick.” Not anger, not defensiveness, just a deep unease. Because even though I understand what people mean when they say it, something about the phrase does not sit right. It is meant to call out harm, thing

Most men grow up learning only three emotions: mad, sad, and glad. But our emotions are more than that. They’re data. By learning to name what you feel, you can understand what your body and mind are trying to tell you. This post explores how the Feelings Wheel and CBT triangle can help men turn confusion into clarity and reaction into reflection.

Many men avoid counselling because it feels uncomfortable, unnecessary, or weak. In reality, counselling is strength in practice, a way to slow down, reconnect, and lead yourself with clarity.

Movember isn’t just about growing facial hair, it is about creating space for men to pause, reflect, and ask, “How am I really doing?” This post explores why so many men live on autopilot, the hidden cost of pushing through, and how counselling can help you slow down, reconnect, and start living with purpose again.

Many men try to keep the peace by staying silent, but real peace comes from understanding what we feel, not avoiding it. Learning to name and share your emotions helps you reconnect. With yourself and with the people you love.

The STOPP skill helps you pause before reacting, so you can respond instead of regret. Learn how this simple DBT tool can help you manage emotions, build self-awareness, and improve relationships.

Urges can feel powerful, like waves that rise fast and take over. The SMART Recovery Urge Log helps you pause, notice what’s happening, and ride those waves with awareness instead of reaction. This simple tool turns moments of struggle into chances to reconnect with yourself.

Most men carry stress, and quietly show up for everyone else but themselves. I has many men feeling worn down inside. In this post, I share seven practical strategies for men’s mental health, from breathing and boundaries to connection and counselling. Learn how to slow down, reset, and build balance again, one step at a time.

Many men carry depression quietly pushing through, numbing out, or calling it stress. This post explores why men are often missed in diagnosis, how stoicism has been twisted into silence, and what real strength looks like. Learn how to spot the signs and where to find support in Abbotsford and across BC.

Written by Evan Vukets, RCC , Registered Clinical Counsellor in Abbotsford, BC. I support men in Abbotsford, the Fraser Valley, and online across BC. Learn more about me You can go days without food. Hours without sleep. But only a few minutes without breath. When stress hits, most men don’t notice their breathing. It becomes short, shallow, and tight, especially in the chest and shoulders. Your body is preparing for a threat, even if that threat is an inbox full of emails o

If your body feels constantly tense or “on,” you’re not alone. Progressive Muscle Relaxation is a simple tool that helps men release stress, sleep better, and reset. Learn how this proven method, used by engineers, businessmen, veterans and counsellors alike can help you unwind and find calm again.

Ever get stuck in a loop of stress or worry? A Thought Record is a simple CBT tool that helps you slow down, organize your mind, and reframe unhelpful thoughts. Taking a few minutes can save you days of carrying stress and irritability.

Choosing private practice wasn’t just a career move, it was a decision rooted in family, values, and balance. In this post, I share my story and why men’s counselling in Abbotsford, the Fraser Valley, and online across BC became the best way to support men in building grounded, meaningful lives.

Many men push through stress without noticing the warning signs. The “5 D’s of Mental Health”: Deviance, Distress, Dysfunction, Danger, Duration offer a simple way to know when it’s time to seek support. Learn how these markers can guide men in Abbotsford, the Fraser Valley, and across BC toward better mental health.

Thoughts move fast, and not all of them are true. Socratic questioning is a simple tool that helps men slow down, challenge unhelpful thoughts, and see new perspectives. In this post, I share how it works, why it matters for men’s mental health, and how counselling in Abbotsford and online across BC can help.

Many men go through life on autopilot, working hard, providing, pushing forward. But they still feel disconnected inside. Living by your core values can shift that. By choosing 3–5 values and practicing them daily, you build motivation, purpose, and a sense of direction that lasts longer than any achievement.

You’ve thought about counselling, but booking a session feels like a big step. A free consultation takes off the pressure. In this post, I share what a consultation looks like, why it matters, and how it can help you decide if counselling feels right for you.

Written by Evan Vukets, RCC , Registered Clinical Counsellor in Abbotsford, BC. I support men in Abbotsford, the Fraser Valley, and...