Written by Evan Vukets, RCC , Registered Clinical Counsellor in Abbotsford, BC. I support men in Abbotsford, the Fraser Valley, and online across BC. Learn more about me When I hear the phrase “toxic masculinity,” I feel an instant reaction in my body. It is like a quiet “ick.” Not anger, not defensiveness, just a deep unease. Because even though I understand what people mean when they say it, something about the phrase does not sit right. It is meant to call out harm, thing

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Written by Evan Vukets, RCC , Registered Clinical Counsellor in Abbotsford, BC. I support men in Abbotsford, the Fraser Valley, and online across BC. Learn more about me You can go days without food. Hours without sleep. But only a few minutes without breath. When stress hits, most men don’t notice their breathing. It becomes short, shallow, and tight, especially in the chest and shoulders. Your body is preparing for a threat, even if that threat is an inbox full of emails o

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