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Written by Evan Vukets, RCC , Registered Clinical Counsellor in Abbotsford, BC. I support men in Abbotsford, the Fraser Valley, and online across BC. Learn more about me When I hear the phrase “toxic masculinity,” I feel an instant reaction in my body. It is like a quiet “ick.” Not anger, not defensiveness, just a deep unease. Because even though I understand what people mean when they say it, something about the phrase does not sit right. It is meant to call out harm, thing